Staring & Glaring

Sometimes it's exceptionally difficult to conduct oneself like a human being and not, say, an animal, when negotiating the streets of the great City of New York.  I often find myself throwing shade to cars who make left turns into my pedestrian cross-walk.  Or angrily 'educating' fellow subway passengers about the out-then-in rule by glaring at them until they allow me to exit.  At least I have pregnancy hormones to blame.  I found a section on 'Staring & Glaring' in one of my favorite etiquette books recently and it was so good I had to share it.  Although the wording is quite strong, it's a rather forceful reminder to behave ourselves in public and to afford others the dignity they are due.

Staring & Glaring

'Glaring furiously at innocent members of the public who may unwittingly have stepped on one's toe or bumped one's elbow is a very frequent and offensive form of bad manners.  Chronic offenders in this are not even mollified by an apology.  In crowded places one may often be pushed and jostled, even stepped on, by one's neighbor.  The best reaction is to try, pleasantly and quietly, to get out of the way.  In any case, one should always accept an apology, however curt or casual, in an agreeable way.  It is probably unnecessary to add that one should never stare at conspicuous people.  Those who are crippled, in tears, shabbily dressed or otherwise marked by misfortune, should be granted the dignity of privacy.  The only exception might be the serious attention which is the prelude to an offer to help one who is in distress.' - 1948

What do you think?!  And hey - if you can't quite manage to curb commute rage, throw on a pair of dark sunglasses like this fabulous Prada pair.  They'll be sure to hide your bad manners.

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